WE WANT YOUR HELP . A podcast project

It’s been almost two years since we quit social media to start our boredom experiment . a way of living differently that also involved the creation of our podcast.

In celebration and commemoration, we want to do something really special for the 2 year anniversary episode – we want you! In fact, we need your perspective in order for this thing to be what it needs to be – a gathering of different perspectives and stories.

It’s simple. Here’s what we need:
we want to know,(according to your experience and are of expertise), what do you think is the good, the bad, and the ugly of social media? share about one or all.

    1. call this number: (816) 343-8298
    2.    Leave your voicemail sharing your name and profession/area of expertise (or “I wish to remain anonymous”) and tell us, what in your opinion is the good / the bad / the ugly of social media?
    3.    that’s it! we will compile responses for our 2 year episode.

call asap, so we can get on making the episode. your perspective means a lot to us and we really appreciate all you wish to share! And feel free to spread the word! Ask your people to call in and share, too. The more the merrier on this bus!

*fun illustrations credited to Akvile Magicdust.

“by our love, by our love” .. and a good podcast episode

What does it mean to be a Christian in this political and social climate, from the inside, looking out?

The election.

The executive orders.

The flared up animosity, rage, hatred, fear, and uncertainty.

The mess we seem to be making of the age-old adage,

“and they’ll know we are Christians by our love, by our love.”

Really? How? Where is that love right here, right now?

Knowing that white evangelicals helped secure the election of Trump leaves me in an awkward position with friends or clients who assume that, because I am a Christian, I contributed to that. I am not one of those, but I am also not willing to vilify people I love simply because they draw their political lines in the sand differently than I do. I need to be open to them because I’m related to some of them, friends with some of them, sitting next to some of them in church tomorrow. So how do we cross the chasm that lies between us politically, and hold in tension our mutual deep love for God, and some undeniable differences in how we are engaging today’s political climate?

It all seems too much to talk about, too much to dig into, and too fresh. This week I listened to this podcast, an open and honest discussion between three Christian leaders with three different stances on Christianity and politics. It’s comforting to me because this conversation, with three generations of Evangelical Leaders (the late Chuck Colson, Greg Boyd, Shane Claiborne) happened in 2008.

As Krista Tippet so bluntly puts it, “to be evangelical is not one thing.”

I took a lot of comfort in hearing this discussion. Mostly because I think it’s beautiful to hear others wrestling with the same tensions I wrestle with. To hear similar lines of argument used and reactions given, it made me feel less alone in how I’ve had to navigate these waters with my Christian brothers and sisters.

I keep coming back to the love and grace of Jesus and the fact that we live in a broken world and we all contribute our own broken hearts to each conversation we have. I think there’s hope in those realities, and a path forward that involves mutual respect and love, even amidst an “agree to disagree” relationship.

have a listen. I highly recommend it.


Image by Colleen Scheck



Marriage is hard .. and more

Marriage is hard. Yes it is. That’s exactly what it is.. and more.

I spoke to a friend recently who, after going through a divorce, got remarried. I asked her how married life was and she said, “it’s hard, of course..”

Of course it is.

I spoke to a single friend about marriage and she said she didn’t want to marry if it wasn’t going to make her life better. If there was a risk that life would get worse, she didn’t see the point in messing with the system she’s got in place.

Being a wedding photographer for the last decade has given me plenty of opportunities to hear and ponder wedding vows. These humans stand and publicly promise the terms of the marriage — better, worse, sickness, health, richer, poorer, good times, bad, to be true, love, honor, cherish one another until death. Death, what a statute of limitations! Only someone on crack would believe it’s possible to keep these promises to the grave.

image by Joe Webb

I’m not saying I don’t love and agree with the promises Jeremy and I made fifteen and a half years ago. I’m just saying I don’t know a single human who has been able to love, honor, and cherish their spouse in all circumstances perfectly. That’s why marriage is hard. That’s why you don’t get the guarantee that things will only get better. In fact, you make a promise to stay when they get worse. It’s right there in the vows so you know exactly what you’re getting yourself into.

Marriage is hard. Of course it is. It’s also partnership, an ally in a rowdy world, a dance partner during dinner prep, a walking buddy. It’s bearing witness. It’s a crook in a neck where my head fits like a puzzle piece. It’s being seen, known, and somehow accepted anyways, most of the time. It’s sharing a million secrets about tastes and preferences, constellations, trains of thought, jokes and fears, history and body parts and hygiene. It’s someone to fight with and someone to fight for. It’s the ability to be human in a deeper way. It stretches your own ability to stay, to accept, to open up when everything inside of you says, “leave!” “push away!” “shut down and self-preserve!”

image by Joe Webb

After all that, it’s the hand you find grabbing for yours when you see your kids go to the first day of kindergarten or struggle in a hospital bed. It’s the one who holds you when you weep like a child over the loss of a parent. It’s the laugh-till-you-cry lines you know better than your own and the ability one person has to rescue you from yourself with one glance. It’s the invitation to go beyond yourself into something holy enough to carry you to the grave.

As I said before, marriage is hard. Yes it is. That’s exactly what it is.. and more.

Because marriage is also this:

that, if well fought and you’re lucky, becomes this:

Which seems pretty worth it to me.




photo of us by Nate Kaiser

photo of old couple by Emanuelle Carbinatti