
Georgia O’Keeffe (1887–1986), Summer Days, 1936
sometimes I feel like I’m cheating by writing on a blog.
I type some thoughts out, schedule a post for a week later, and then watch it go live as if I were still the person who wrote the words, still in that state of mind.
I had a couple of posts scheduled to go live this week but I cancelled them for now, putting them back in draft mode.
somehow it felt inauthentic to share hilarious rantings and a funny video I came across, post titled, “I laughed until I cried”, when I am not in that place right now.
the place I am in right now feels more like the Georgia O’Keefe painting above.
I saw it in person at the Whitney in NYC last year and I found myself in it.
I love how art does that. I love how one particular work might look like a random nothing to someone else, but to my soul it’s a mirror. (to be fair, anyone who feels nothing about Georgia O’Keefe’s work is missing out on something revelatory and transcendent in the world, and I’m sorry for your loss.)
I’ve spent the last four days in bed.
It started Saturday with a series of symptoms leading to a debilitating six hour stretch of the most intense physical pain I’ve ever experienced.
I have a tendency to embellish events when recounting them. I am not doing that here.
I had many of the symptoms of a complex migraine – seeing black and white flashes, blurry vision, excruciating pain behind my right temple, numbness and weakness on my left side, a total inability to function. This lasted over five hours.
Even as the attack tapered off in the seventh hour, the symptoms have not let up entirely. I still find myself not well, not feeling like myself, and entirely powerless.
Yes, I’ve seen my doctor. Yes it could be something more serious and yes, it could just be a complex migraine, which is bad enough. I find out more tomorrow after an MRI. But the reality that keeps gripping me is this:
I am powerless.
powerless against the forces of my body.
powerless in the face of death.
Sounds bleak and dramatic, I know. But Saturday’s attack so wrecked and re-sized me that I felt closer to the fact of my own mortality than ever before. I believed I might die here in this bed. Then, as a reprieve from the pain, I briefly wanted to. These have been hard days of waiting, lingering symptoms, and questions about what the MRI might reveal. They have been filled with way too much time on my hands to consider life, death, and how my body could so violently turn on me. I’ve even tried reasoning with it, like, “come on, pal. I thought we were in this grand adventure together! and then you go a pull a stunt like this…”
I don’t have a pretty bow to tie this up today. I’m never any good at those “and they all lived happily ever after..” endings in anyways. I always try it and then, ten minutes later, call BS on myself. Today I only have the painting. I feel the presence of mortality and morbidity in the skull. My lack of control, uncertainty of what happens next. Then a few wildflowers rise out of nowhere. The only beautiful presence in any of it – the Holy Spirit, a quiet partner and witness. Still, beyond my own doing or being – in my powerlessness, I am loved. I am not alone.
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